If this past year was difficult or challenging, here are a few strategies to make your life not only different, but better.
- Plan something fun with friends two or more times this year.
Social relationships are key to your emotional and spiritual health. Busyness is not a reason to isolate yourself. Make plans and set dates and places with your friends now. Having something enjoyable to look forward to can give you a boost on a discouraging day.
Last year, for Valentine’s Day, I met my two college roommates at a spa. That’s often a difficult day for me. We each had manicures and lunch at the local resort, then spent the afternoon lounging, reading, and talking beside the large glass-enclosed pool. At the far side of the pool, a married couple were having an intimate meal with a dozen long-stemmed red roses decorating their table. When they left the pool area, the wife smiled at us. “Would you each like a rose?”
We nodded.
Then she said, “I noticed what a wonderful time you’re having laughing and talking with each other. I wish I had female friends to spend an afternoon with.”
Wishing is one thing, but it is far better to take action and invest in a few special fun times with friends. I made some favorite memories this past year with my dear friends.
- Spend time in conversation with Jesus, the true lover of your soul.
One of my coaching clients mentioned she only talks to Jesus about important issues. “I don’t want to bother him with my insecurities.”
Bother Jesus? You can never “bother” him. You can talk to Jesus about anything. For instance, ask him what he would say to your inner critic. Then, the next time that voice whispers that you shouldn’t concern Jesus with your minor problems or that you are not good enough to have his attention, tell him about it.
In Questions for Jesus, Tony Stoltzfus offers kickstarter ideas to help you develop intimate conversations with Jesus. For example, have you ever asked Jesus, “What will it be like for you to tell the story of the life we’ve lived together to all of heaven?”
- Record or journal your conversations with Jesus and insights from Scripture.
As you connect with God and your true self, you’ll realize the importance of recording your journey “into a permanent record to be remembered forever” (Exodus 17:14 NLB). Ask Jesus your deeper questions and write what he says so you can remember his response. Rereading what he said days, weeks or months later enables you to pay attention to God’s desires for you and remember how he loves you and holds you close to his heart.
One morning I was beating myself up for worrying so much. I asked for the Lord’s forgiveness and wrote in my journal, “Jesus, how might you smile at me today?” He seemed to whisper to me, “I smile at you because I love the broken, anxious person you are. I love all of you. I love the parts you are ashamed of. I LOVE YOU! Cheer up! I forgive your sins.”
This year can be different and better, but you must first step out with the Lord’s help and take action.
